Step One Awakening

Step 1: Awakening — How do you realize your life is out of alignment? Sacred Life Method · Step One of Six

You probably won't have one dramatic moment of clarity. For most of us it builds slowly — a feeling we keep pushing down, a pattern we keep repeating, a life that looks fine from the outside and feels hollow from the inside.

Here are a few things you might recognize right away:

1. You're unhappy and can't quite explain why — just a constant low-grade feeling that something is missing.

2. Going to work, going home, going out — and you still can't relax or feel comfortable anywhere.

3. That underlying whisper that this wasn't the plan for your life.

4. Drinking to relax, to forget about the day, needing a drink just to release the frustration your daily life keeps handing you.

5. Taking multiple vacations from work and still coming back with dread sitting heavy in your mind, body, and soul.

6. Getting mad at the thought of going to work before you're even there.

7. Telling yourself that different owners, different management, a different city will fix it. And it does — for a few months. Then the dread starts creeping back in.

It's that nagging, sometimes obvious feeling we spend years explaining away: I hate my job. I hate this life. There has to be more than this.

This is your sign! Something isn't right in your life!

That's what I found on my phone last night. An old photo — a picture I had taken of my journal. I guess I was really trying to send myself a message that I never listened to.

I was too scared to start over. I told myself I'd never find another job with the same pay and benefits. Couldn't I just deal with it? That's what most of my friends said when I brought up quitting. So instead I went to therapy. I started drinking more than before. I was taking multiple medications a day for anxiety, depression, and sleep. My whole body was in chaos — screaming that this is not what I'm meant to be doing.

I still don't know with certainty if this new path is the right one. But it's a better, healthier, and more peaceful journey than what I was living. I have a job I can tolerate that covers my bills. I don't have much of a support system for this — I'm a very private person, and this feels deeply personal. I can share this journey with strangers more easily than with friends and family, because with them it feels like disappointment. Like I have nothing to show yet. Nothing for them to be proud of.

But I've worked the steps. I created the steps. I lived them. And now I'm sharing my journey hoping someone else finds their way out faster than I did — because I spent way too many years listening to people tell me that hating your job and your life is just normal.

It's not normal. It's misalignment. And there's a way through it.

Look at that list above. How many of those hit? One? Four? All seven? Write the number down. Sit with it. That number is your body's honesty breaking through — and it's exactly where Step 1 of the Sacred Life Method begins.

If you want to go deeper into Awakening in a live setting — with other women doing the same honest work — the Step 1 Workshop is where we spend 90 minutes on exactly this. Together.

I think the new standard we leave for the next generation should look different — kids who grow up wanting to live lives that are meaningful, that make them happy, that give them purpose and joy while building something better for the generation after them.

This hunger for more — more money, more success, more responsibility, more, more, more — it's just not working. Look around. Look at the people sitting at bars every night after work complaining about their jobs. Look at the number of people on antidepressants and mood stabilizers. Mental health absolutely deserves specialized treatment and care — I'm not dismissing that. But I do believe that if more of us were living in alignment, doing work that brings us real joy and purpose, those numbers would look very different.

That's not an opinion I read in a book. That's something I lived.

Ready to start? The Sacred Life Method workbook walks you through all six steps — beginning with Awakening and ending with Integration. You don't need to have it figured out. You just need a notebook, something to write with, and the willingness to be honest with yourself for the first time in a while.